I recently decided to re-read The Perks of Being a Wallflower by Stephen Chbosky. And I think it was one of the best decisions I have made all summer.
My life is overflowing with abundant blessings. And I am so grateful for every single one of them. For the water that flows beneath my feet and in the expansive sky, for the people I get to call family, and for the music that willingly moves mountains. But even in this environment of bliss and love, I feel like I don’t always know what to do with my pain.
While reading, I came across a reality that I was finally able to accept and understand. I used to believe that although I was filled with confusion and sadness, I should still be grateful for that pain because my situation could always be worse. It wasn’t till after reading this quote when I understood why guilting myself into a false happiness didn’t seem to make sense to me.
“I think that if I ever have kids, I won’t tell them that people are starving in China or anything like that because it wouldn’t change the fact that they were upset. And even if somebody has it much worse, that doesn’t really change the fact that you have what you have.”
My pain is relevant. Raw. Real. And it should be.
Sometimes, we set ourselves up for pain, disappointment, and sadness when we let the wrong things protect us. Eventuality, the harsh reality with throw down our walls, and we won’t be able to hide behind dishonest happiness anymore. Pain is real. And accepting it for what it is is the only way we can truly deal with it. Acknowledgement leads to accepting. Accepting leads to addressing. Addressing leads to overcoming.
Your emotions are worthy of your attention and acceptance. You are you, and that includes your pain. Be secure in your vulnerability. True strength isn’t pretending not to feel, its having a willingness to know that what you feel is okay.
I hope that my ideas inspire you to accomplish whatever you need to.
Love, Valerie x