Competition is all around us. It’s no wonder we are constantly comparing ourselves to our peers. We have been given the impression that in order to succeed, we have to be the absolute best, threatening our sympathy and increasing our apathy.
To measure my level of competitiveness, I decided to take an online test (obviously). After thinking long and hard about my answers, I ended up with a competitiveness score of only 60%. And to be honest, I was bit disappointed.
I like to think of myself as competitive. I mean, I am always down for an intense church game (which usually involves a lot of yelling), and I really do want to graduate high school in the top 10%, but what else pushes my competitiveness?
In my opinion, I think that our society and our changing world has completely made rivalry into something that it doesn’t need to be. I understand that competition is a necessary part of our lives. But there is a healthy level of it, and we have far surpassed that level.
The more opportunities there are, the more room there is for competition. We are constantly trying to fill this room, mainly just to give ourselves higher titles, such as CEO of the company, top 5%, etc. When in reality, what needs to be encouraging our growth is the ability to see improvement in ourselves.
A few months ago, I found myself thinking more and more about my body compared to others. The competition of having the skinniest body and most toned stomach torments both genders of all ages. After too long of wishing for smaller thighs and no more stretch marks, I realized that comparing myself to other girls was only making me ungrateful for the body I was given. Constant comparison digs you into a hole of growing negativity.
When we start competing against and comparing ourselves to others, we become obsessed with trying to be someone else that we begin to lose ourselves. This comparison promotes decreasing diversity and threatens self-love. We think we have to be the same as everyone else, and we start to dwell on our weaknesses instead of working on our strengths.
In some cases, it is okay to compare yourself to others. It’s helpful to realize what you may want to become or what you want to steer away from. But in order to do this, we need to be happy within ourselves.
I hope that my ideas inspire you to accomplish whatever you need to.
Love, Valerie x